Written by: Rachael L. DeCosta, CDFA®
Many of us look at the world we are leaving behind through rose colored glasses. Do any of these resonate?
Maybe we should have tried harder, we had so many great times
My spouse completed me.
I loved my job, it fulfilled me.
How am I going to fill my free time?
This is a common phenomenon, most of our brains are wired to focus on the positives of the life from which we are transitioning - this can present challenges in embracing the next chapter. Life transitions are rarely easy but always present an opportunity. Transitions, voluntary or involuntary, are often associated with a loss – a loss of a spouse, a job, an income – accompanied by a degree of fear of the unknown. Some mourn the loss of who they were, others pivot to different routines and a handful race to the new beginning and try not to look back. Regardless of how you transition, a common thread is the need for the three Ps: People, Purpose and Passion.
What did my community look like before, and what will it look like now? Whether you were part of a couple’s dining club, manager of the soccer team or led Monday morning meetings, once these activities cease to exist, it is important that you maintain social connections and a sense of belonging. Many of you will nurture all or part of your previous community, and some may want to start fresh.
Exploring these sites and apps may energize and launch you into expanding upon or developing social connections.
- Meetup – A simple way to join a social circle. www.meetup.com
- Eventbrite – A resource for virtual and in person activities and events. www.eventbrite.com
- Peanut – An app connecting likeminded women of all ages. www.peanut-app.io
- Yubo – A social live streaming platform to meet new friends. www.yubo.com
- Revel – An on-line community of 50+ yo women. www.hellorevel.com
Not necessarily saving the world!
A purpose is something that makes you happy and creates meaning. When one transitions, the transition is can be from a role that gave you a purpose, helped define who you are. You may find these 3 questions beneficial:
What can I do with my time that is important?
What fills my bucket?
If I had 1 year to live, what would I do, and how would I be remembered?
Sadly, many live a life without finding their true passion. A transition is a gift and provides the freedom to embrace your passion, whatever that may be.
"Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you." -Oprah Winfrey
"It is obvious that we can no more explain a passion to a person who has never experienced it than we can explain light to the blind." -T. S. Eliot
"Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world." – Harriet Tubman
While your past was wonderful, your future will be as well. The rose colored glasses you had on, can give you a lens into the People, your Purpose and your Passion as you transition into your next chapter.
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